Influence Mojo

Everyone exits in their own world. If you want to build relationships, go into THEIR world and talk to them about it.  

Many times in your daily activities you can easily find people who only talk about their own world.  They will tell you what they're doing, what they think, what they know, what they have, what they think you need, what you should know, what you should be doing, and what you should have. 

You no doubt have had days when you feel as if the whole world lives in a selfish existence of "ME-ism."  While you know it would be delightful if someone would sincerely walk into your world--even briefly--to ask you about you, you don't expect it.  If and when it happens, it's magical because you feel significant in this world of individiual silos.

While we can't make others care, we can influence others.  The more emotional equity you have and are willing to give to others by listening to them and showing an interest in their lives--their thoughts, their values, their interests, you will be the more powerful, influential communicator.  

The Law of Indirect Effect  

If you want someone to listen to you, you must first listen to them.  

If you want someone to care about you, you must first care about them.  

If you want someone to be influenced by you, you must first be willing to be influenced by them.

The secret of influence:  Make the other person feel good about themselves in your presence.

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"Connecting Worlds"